Why All This Talking and Processing Isn’t Helping Your Child

Why All This Talking and Processing Isn’t Helping Your Child

The Patterns of Attention That Quietly Reinforce Struggle Spend enough time around many households, or therapy offices, and you will hear a familiar and well-intentioned phrase: “Let’s talk about how you’re feeling. Or how do you feel about that?” At times, this is...
The Cost of a Relentlessly Easier Childhood

The Cost of a Relentlessly Easier Childhood

When Good Intentions Create Painful Outcomes As a psychologist who has worked with families for decades, I am seeing a pattern that is difficult to ignore. We are raising children in a time of unprecedented comfort, safety, and opportunity—yet many are struggling...
Best Effort: One Key to Your Child’s Happiness

Best Effort: One Key to Your Child’s Happiness

Loading Video... Spring is a season of renewal. The days grow longer, energy returns, and many families begin thinking about new activities, sports, and opportunities for their children. It is also a time when an important parenting question quietly appears: Will our...
Why You’re Still Stuck: The Paradox of Effort in Healing

Why You’re Still Stuck: The Paradox of Effort in Healing

Let’s be honest—kindly honest, not beat-yourself-up honest. If you’ve struggled for years, you’ve probably tried just about everything. The self-help books are stacked like a motivational Jenga tower. You’ve done therapy. You’ve...