I recently came across a cocktail napkin bearing this wonderfully honest sentence: “I am not arguing. I am just explaining why I am right.” It is funny because most of us recognize the character immediately. It may be a spouse, coworker or that relative...
Most of us have become remarkably skilled at postponing our lives. We tell ourselves that things will settle down after this week, after the project is finished, after the kids get through this phase, after the house is organized, after the vacation, after retirement,...
For a few glorious weeks each summer, Saratoga celebrates horses bred to run. Speed is admired. Racing is encouraged. Thousands arrive hoping to watch something move very, very fast. Unfortunately, some of our brains seem to believe they have also entered the races at...
A few weeks ago, I wrote about the Sacred Pause-the brief space we create so that we do not simply react. It is about stopping long enough to settle ourselves and respond intentionally. A choice point is related, but broader. It is the moment when we recognize that...
Last week, I wrote about the sacred pause – that small but powerful space between what happens and how we respond. It is the moment when we can choose wisdom over impulse, connection over being right, and calm over escalation. But let’s be honest:...
