What Can Wait—and What Cannot
“Let me just finish this.” It is a reasonable thing to say. We have work to complete, messages to answer and responsibilities that do not disappear because someone wants our attention. Yet we can say those five words so often that they become the way we...
I’m Not Arguing. I’m Just Explaining Why I’m Right.
I recently came across a cocktail napkin bearing this wonderfully honest sentence: “I am not arguing. I am just explaining why I am right.” It is funny because most of us recognize the character immediately. It may be a spouse, coworker or that relative...
Waiting for the Next Finish Line
Most of us have become remarkably skilled at postponing our lives. We tell ourselves that things will settle down after this week, after the project is finished, after the kids get through this phase, after the house is organized, after the vacation, after retirement,...
Choice Points: The Small Moments That Put Life Back on Track
A few weeks ago, I wrote about the Sacred Pause-the brief space we create so that we do not simply react. It is about stopping long enough to settle ourselves and respond intentionally. A choice point is related, but broader. It is the moment when we recognize that...