The Patterns of Attention That Quietly Reinforce Struggle Spend enough time around many households, or therapy offices, and you will hear a familiar and well-intentioned phrase: “Let’s talk about how you’re feeling. Or how do you feel about that?” At times, this is...
When Good Intentions Create Painful Outcomes As a psychologist who has worked with families for decades, I am seeing a pattern that is difficult to ignore. We are raising children in a time of unprecedented comfort, safety, and opportunity—yet many are struggling...
Loading Video... Spring is a season of renewal. The days grow longer, energy returns, and many families begin thinking about new activities, sports, and opportunities for their children. It is also a time when an important parenting question quietly appears: Will our...
If you are living with a defiant teenager, you know the drill. You ask them to take out the trash, and they roll their eyes. You mention homework, and a door slams. You try to set a limit on screen time, and World War III erupts in your living room. Exhausted parents...
Parents often describe their child as “sensitive” with a kind of hopeful pride, as if this trait grants access to some emotional superpower. They imagine a child who is unusually compassionate, deeply connected to others, and tuned in to the subtler layers...
Most of us have no idea how much our own minds steal our peace. It doesn’t come from the world, or from other people, or even from our circumstances. It comes from that little internal whisper that says, “This shouldn’t be happening. I don’t...