How To Feel Bad When Working Hard: Taking Things Personally

How To Feel Bad When Working Hard: Taking Things Personally

In this series of mistakes that fail your family, I am highlighting common strategies that undermine your children’s success and happiness. We have covered several behavioral strategies recently, but today’s discussion focuses on a critical mental mistake:...
You Can’t Get There From Here!

You Can’t Get There From Here!

I once heard this phrase long ago, and it has stuck with me over the years. Many clients have asked me to clarify my meaning when I boldly pronounce: “I’m sorry. You just can’t get there from here.” Our Silent Superpower! Most of our struggles...
The Outside Game Part II: Discipline

The Outside Game Part II: Discipline

We all understand the role of discipline in creating a successful journey through life. Yet, many parents struggle with teaching discipline to their kids. In part two of this series, I will discuss the role of parental discipline in forming the glue that binds the...
The Backfire: How Good Intentions Turn South!

The Backfire: How Good Intentions Turn South!

If you have been reading this column for a while, you will recognize this ‘Cale Truism’ that I have addressed from many angles: Your superpower as a parent resides in your mastery of how you use your attention. What you repeatedly focus upon with your...
Which Game Do We Focus On?

Which Game Do We Focus On?

When speaking to parents with challenging children, there is often an urgency to address the specifics of what to do when a problem behavior shows up. In other words, the understandable desire is to fix the problem right now. After all, you want an answer when your...