The Patterns of Attention That Quietly Reinforce Struggle Spend enough time around many households, or therapy offices, and you will hear a familiar and well-intentioned phrase: “Let’s talk about how you’re feeling. Or how do you feel about that?” At times, this is...
Loading Video... There’s a narrow stretch of time—usually between midnight and 4:00 a.m.—when otherwise competent, grounded adults wake up and , at times, ‘lose their minds.’ What do I mean by that? Thoughts arise, many strong and intrusive. Careers...
Every January, many of us decide it is finally time to change, and our intentions are good. The calendar turns, and with it comes a familiar internal desire to do better—be healthier, calmer, kinder, more disciplined, more present. The problem is not the desire for...
As the holiday season arrives, we hear a lot about gratitude. We’re told to “be thankful,” to “focus on the good,” to “appreciate what matters.” These ideas sound nice, but they can feel unrealistic when life feels...
Most of us have no idea how much our own minds steal our peace. It doesn’t come from the world, or from other people, or even from our circumstances. It comes from that little internal whisper that says, “This shouldn’t be happening. I don’t...